Will me and my boyfriend make it?

I really need to know if my boyfriend and I are going to make it. He had just gotten out of a terrible 19-year relationship before he met me.

He is starting to push me away to protect me. He still has to go through all of the boxes with her stuff in it, and he loves me deep like I love him. Will everything be better or worse when he gets done with this stuff he needs to do to completely get over her so that we can move on?

Rhonda Carden, Clovis, California

Dear Rhonda, Disconnect yourself from these boxes as it's only stuff that you can do without. He has loads of things going on in his head at the moment. I feel there is money involved and he seems to be carrying a lot of dead weight around with him.I even feel there are children involved, so it's going to be hard for him to move on.

Apart from his last girl friend, I feel he has other problems which all add up to the way he is reacting. Stop spending money to make you feel good - it does not work long term. I feel at this moment in time you do feel it is coming to an end and the relations ship may be dying. But I feel you need to pull back and take a good look at what you have got and what you can do.

You will be surprised how good the future will be for you, even though you can't see it right now, but you can break this or fix it.