How can I find my dad so he can help me bring up my son?

Hiya Alison I've been looking for my father for ages. I've spent money on different websites, am even on the find old friends website, yet nothing has come up.

I have never seen my dad, all I know is that his name is John Walker and that his nickname is Jonnie. Yes as far as I know he lives in the Warrington area. My mother passed away. I didn't really know her as I spent my days in childrens' homes and foster carers.

I now have three beautiful children but they have no granddad. It means a lot for me to find my dad because he might be able to help me with my son and advise me like a parent should. You see, my son hits me and my daughters, and my partner would rather me get rid of my son. I'm not like that. I cant put my son through what I went through.

I really do want my dad. I'm fed up being told what to do. My partner has a lot of control and I feel trapped. My son hates his stepdad. He thinks he doesn't treat me well etc. If I had somewhere to live I would up and leave. I can only chat to you because you don't know me. I think you're a gifted lady to still come out on top.

Cathie, Stockport

ALISON SAYS...

Hiya Cathy

There are a few issues in your letter apart from finding your father, but I shall deal with that one first.

192.com is a free website which gives the address and phone number of the person you are looking for (as in the phone directory) but also on the electoral role.

I have sent you the link to this website and hope this is of some help to you.

Also you may like to try the Salvation Army who assist people in finding lost relatives for free. I have sent you the link to their website also. Good luck with your search.

With regards to you saying you have nowhere to go, there are women's refuges all over the country that offer temporary accommodation to women (and their children) in situations like yourself, as well as assisting you in getting in touch with the various organisations with regards to rehousing, benefits and problems with their children.

I have also sent you the link to their webpage.

In the event you decide not to contact the women's refuge, then may I suggest that you contact social services if only for them to give you support with your son without the need for him going into care.

Take Care